By using this site, you agree to the Privacy Policy and Disclaimer.
Accept
Narcissist Hunter
  • Latest Research on Narcissism
  • Narcissistic abuse
    Narcissistic abuse
    What is Narcissistic abuse, Kinds, coping strategies and abuse cycle.
    Show More
    Top News
    What is Devaluation phase of narcissistic abuse?
    The Devaluation Phase of Narcissistic Abuse: What Narcissists do During this Phase
    March 6, 2023
    Idealization phase of narcissistic abuse
    The Idealization Phase of Narcissistic Abuse: What Happens and How to Deal With It
    February 9, 2023
    9 Ways to Create Emotional Distance from a Narcissist
    9 Ways to Create Emotional Distance from a Narcissist
    February 10, 2023
    Latest News
    Can Narcissistic Abuse Cause Brain Damage
    March 22, 2023
    5 Ways to Respond After Being Discarded By a Narcissist
    March 4, 2023
    8 Reasons a Narcissist Will Come Back After Discarding You
    March 9, 2023
    Why Narcissists Discard Their Victims: Exploring the Motives
    March 1, 2023
  • Narcissism
    • Narcissist traps
    • Types of Narcissists
    NarcissismShow More
    16 Little-known Narcissism Facts That Will Blow Your Mind
    16 Little-known Narcissism Facts That Will Blow Your Mind
    March 12, 2023
    Understanding the Link between Codependency and Narcissism
    March 4, 2023
    Difference Between Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder
    Difference Between Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder
    February 9, 2023
    12 Most Common Traits of Narcissists
    12 Most Common Traits of Narcissists
    February 2, 2023
    What is Narcissistic Rage? Signs, Causes, and Response
    What is Narcissistic Rage? Signs, Causes, and Response
    March 4, 2023
  • Best Narcissism Quotes
  • Narcissist parents
    Narcissist parentsShow More
    What Parenting style Cause Narcissism in Children
    How Different Parenting Styles Influence the Risk of Narcissism in Children
    March 5, 2023
    What is a Narcissistic sibling. Sigs, causes
    Know Everything About Narcissistic Sibling, Causes, Signs and How to Deal
    March 5, 2023
    Understanding Narcissistic Mothers: Signs and Traits
    Understanding Narcissistic Mothers: Signs and Traits
    March 5, 2023
    What is Narcissistic Father? Signs , traits, and coping
    Narcissistic Father: Traits, Signs, Tactics & Coping Tips
    March 10, 2023
    10 Simple Tips to Avoid Raising a Narcissistic Child
    10 Simple Tips to Avoid Raising a Narcissistic Child
    February 9, 2023
  • Narcissist Hunter Premium Newsletter
  • All Topics
Reading: What is Narcissist Discard Phase and Why Narcissist Discards You
Share
Notification Show More
Latest News
Can Narcissistic Abuse Cause Brain Damage
Can Narcissistic Abuse Cause Brain Damage
Narcissistic abuse
What is Narcissistic love and how to deal with it
Narcissistic Love: Signs and How To Deal With It
Relationship with a narcissist
What It’s Like To Be In a Relationship With a Covert Narcissist
What It’s Like To Be In a Relationship With a Covert Narcissist
Relationship with a narcissist
Covert Narcissism and social media
What Covert Narcissists Do On Social Media
Narcissist traps
10 Famous People With Narcissistic Personality Disorder
10 Famous People With Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Latest Research on Narcissism
Aa
Narcissist Hunter
Aa
  • Latest Research on Narcissism
  • Narcissistic abuse
  • Narcissism
  • Best Narcissism Quotes
  • Narcissist parents
  • Narcissist Hunter Premium Newsletter
  • All Topics
  • Latest Research on Narcissism
  • Narcissistic abuse
  • Narcissism
    • Narcissist traps
    • Types of Narcissists
  • Best Narcissism Quotes
  • Narcissist parents
  • Narcissist Hunter Premium Newsletter
  • All Topics
Have an existing account? Sign In
Follow US
© 2023 Narcissishunters.com. All Rights Reserved.
You can join Forum to ask questions, we are making it better.
Narcissist Hunter > Blog > Narcissistic abuse > What is Narcissist Discard Phase and Why Narcissist Discards You
Narcissistic abuse

What is Narcissist Discard Phase and Why Narcissist Discards You

Fahim Chughtai
Last updated: 2023/03/01 at 1:54 AM
Fahim Chughtai
Share
18 Min Read
Narcissist discard phase
Discard phase of narcissistic abuse
SHARE
Highlights
  • The typical pattern of behavior during this phase is the withdrawal of love and support, followed by Idealization and devaluation of the partner. 
  • These people are known as narcissists, and they tend to go through a process known as “discarding” when they decide to end a relationship. During the discard phase, narcissists will often act cold and distant, making it clear that they are no longer interested in their partner.

The narcissist discard phase is a term used to describe how a narcissist ends a relationship. The typical pattern of behavior during this phase is the withdrawal of love and support, followed by Idealization and devaluation of the partner. 

Narcissists are just the best, aren’t they? They always know just what to say and do to make you feel special. They’re charming, attentive, and loving. And then, suddenly, they’re gone. They disappear without a trace, leaving you feeling bewildered and heartbroken.

Causes of Narcissist discard phase

Narcissists are the epitome of selfishness. So, it should come as no surprise that when they have had their fill of someone, they will coldly discard them without a second thought. After all, to a narcissist, their partners are nothing more than objects to be used and abused. Here are some possible reasons why narcissists discard their partners or victims:

There are many reasons why narcissists might discard their partners. Here are 11 possible reasons:

- Advertisement -
  1. They no longer find their partner useful.
  2. They’ve found someone new who they think is better than their current partner.
  3.  They’re feeling restless and want to move on to something new.
  4.  They’re bored with the relationship and think ending it will add some excitement to their life.
  5. They don’t like the way their partner has been treating them and feel they deserve a better narcissistic supply.
  6. . They’ve become bored with them
  7. They feel like they can’t control them anymore
  8. They no longer feel challenged by them
  9. They don’t want to deal with their own flaws that are being reflected back to them
  10. They’re tired of putting up with their partner’s emotional outbursts/neediness/jealousy/etc.
  11.  They want to punish their partner for daring to leave or reject them first.

What do Narcissists do During Discard Phase?

Narcissists do all possible things to hurt and kick out their partners, Here is a list of those things:

1. Criticize and devalue their partners

Narcissists are well-known for their ability to charm and ingratiate themselves with others. However, what goes up must come down, and eventually, the narcissist will turn on their partner. 

This is often referred to as the “discard” phase when the narcissist devalues and criticizes their partner in an attempt to justify breaking off the relationship. The narcissist may say things like “you’re too needy,” or “you’re not good enough for me,” in order to convince themselves and others that they are justified in leaving. 

In reality, however, this is just another manipulative tactic designed to inflict pain and suffering on their former partner.

2. Withdraw love and affection

Narcissists are well-known for their lack of empathy, their self-centeredness, and their tendency to take advantage of others. But one of the most hurtful things about narcissistic behavior is the way that narcissists withdraw love and affection during the discard phase of a relationship. 

After showering their partners with attention and flattery during the initial stages of the relationship, narcissists abruptly withdraw all forms of affection, leaving their partners feeling confused, hurt, and rejected.

3. Disconnect from their partners emotionally

As any relationship expert knows, the key to a successful relationship is communication. When two people are able to share their feelings and learn to understand each other, they can create a strong bond that will last a lifetime. However, there are some people who prefer to communicate by disconnecting from their partner emotionally.

While this may seem like a cruel and heartless way to end a relationship, it is actually a very effective way for narcissists to protect themselves from getting hurt. By disconnecting from their partners emotionally, narcissists can avoid feeling the pain of rejection.

4. Refuse to communicate with their partners

Narcissists are the masters of communication… when it suits them. When they’re trying to win you over, they’ll text you all day and night, call you just to hear your voice, and shower you with compliments. But as soon as they get what they want from you, they go radio silent. They won’t respond to your texts, calls, or any other attempt to contact them.

And if you confront them about it, they’ll gaslight you and make you feel like you’re crazy for even thinking that they would ignore you like that. Narcissists play a cruel game, but unfortunately, it’s one that their partners often fall for. And this happens in the discard phase.

5. Block or delete their partners from social media

Narcissists are well-known for their love of attention. Whether it’s positive or negative, they thrive on being the center of attention. So, it’s no surprise that when a narcissist is finished with a relationship, they often go out of their way to block or delete their former partners from social media.

After all, why would they want to see posts about their exes moving on and being happy without them? It’s much easier for them to simply erase any trace of their existence. That way, they can pretend that the relationship never happened and move on to their next victim.

6. Manipulate others into discrediting their partners

Narcissists are master manipulators. They are experts at getting others to do their dirty work for them. When they are done with a relationship, they will often try to discredit their partner in order to make themselves look better. They will do this by spreading lies and gossip, and by trying to trash their partner’s reputation. In doing so, they hope to make their partner’s life as difficult as possible.

Ultimately, narcissists want to come out of a relationship looking like the victim. They want others to feel sorry for them, and they want their partners to be seen as the bad guys. By playing the victim card, narcissists are able to gain sympathy and support from those around them. And that is exactly what they want.

8. Physically abuse their partners

Narcissists are well-known for their manipulative behavior and callous treatment of others. But did you know that they’re also physical abusers? That’s right — when narcissists are ready to discard their partners, they often resort to violence in order to drive them away.

And why not? After all, what could be more effective at making someone want to leave than being physically abused? It’s the perfect way to ensure that their victim will never want to come back.

How to respond to Narcissist discard?

Being discarded by a narcissist is one of the most painful experiences a person can go through. After investing so much time and energy into the relationship, it can feel like a rug has been pulled out from under you. The good news is that there are steps you can take to heal from the experience and move on with your life. 

1. Don’t take it personally.

Being discarded by a narcissist can be a traumatic experience. It can feel like a personal attack, and it’s often hard not to take it personally. However, it’s important to remember that narcissists are master manipulators. They often use people and then discard them when they are no longer useful.

This is not a reflection on you as a person. Rather, it is simply a reflection of the narcissist’s own twisted values. If you have been discarded by a narcissist, try to take solace in the fact that you are not alone. Many others have gone through the same thing, and you will get through this too.

2. Realize that you were just a pawn in their game.

After being discarded by a narcissist, it can be difficult to pick up the pieces and move on. It’s important to remember that you were just a pawn in their game — they never really cared about you, only what you could do for them. The best thing you can do is to learn from the experience and move on.

Strengthen your boundaries and learn to spot the warning signs of narcissistic behavior. That way, you’ll be less likely to get involved with another narcissist in the future. Take this as an opportunity to focus on your own happiness, and don’t let anyone else control your life.

3. Remember that they are the ones who are losing out, not you.

It can be incredibly hurtful when someone we love turns out to be a narcissist. They seem to take pleasure in playing with our emotions, often casting us aside when we no longer serve their purpose. It’s easy to get caught up in the pain of being discarded and to forget that the narcissist is the one who is really losing out.

While it might not feel like it at the time, being discarded by a narcissist is actually a good thing. It means that we are no longer subject to their manipulation and abuse.

We are free to find someone who will truly appreciate us for who we are. In the meantime, we can take comfort in the knowledge that the narcissist is the one who is missing out on a real and meaningful relationship.


4. Stay strong and don’t let them see that they’ve hurt you.

When a narcissist decides to discard you, it can be a crushing blow. You may feel like you’ve been suddenly and inexplicably cut off from the person you love most in the world.

But it’s important to remember that this isn’t about you. Narcissists need constant admiration and attention, and when they don’t get it from you, they will look elsewhere.

It hurts, but the best thing you can do is stay strong. Don’t let them see that they’ve hurt you. Show them that you’re better off without them. Eventually, they’ll move on to someone else and you’ll be able to start rebuilding your life.

5. Learn from the experience and grow stronger because of it.

One way to deal with a narcissist’s discard is to learn from the experience and grow stronger because of it. It can be difficult to see the positive side of things when you’re feeling rejected and alone, but it’s important to remember that this isn’t the end of the world.

Every relationship teaches us something about ourselves, and we can use what we’ve learned from this one to build healthier relationships in the future. If we can approach the situation with openness and willingness to learn, we can come out of it feeling stronger and more self-aware than before.

So, next time you’re faced with a narcissist’s discard, remember that it presents an opportunity for personal growth. Use it as a chance to learn about yourself and what you need in a relationship. With this new knowledge, you’ll be better equipped to create lasting, meaningful connections with others.

6. Don’t contact them anymore and cut all ties.

 This includes texting, calling, emailing, or any other form of communication. By cutting off all contact, you’re sending a clear message that you’re moving on with your life. second, remove them from your social media accounts and delete any photos or videos that you have of them. This will help you to put the past behind you and focus on the future. 

7. Move on with your life and focus on your own happiness.

 The best way to deal with narcissist discard is to move on with your life and focus on your own happiness. Don’t waste your time trying to figure out what went wrong or trying to get the narcissist’s approval. Instead, use this opportunity to focus on your own needs and goals.

Invest in your relationships with family and friends, pick up a new hobby, or do something that makes you happy. By taking care of yourself and living your best life, you can show the narcissist that they made a huge mistake by discarding you.

8. Don’t give up on love altogether, there is someone out there for you!

Being discarded by a narcissist can be one of the most painful experiences a person can go through. After months or even years of feeling like you are the most important person in their life, you are suddenly cast aside with no explanation.

It can feel like you have been punched in the gut, and it can be hard to see a way forward. However, it is important to remember that not all relationships are like this. There will be someone out there who will appreciate and value you for who you are. So don’t give up on love altogether — there is someone out there for you!

Temporary or Permanent Narcissistic discard

Narcissists’ discard can be temporary or permanent. If it’s temporary, the narcissist may come back after a period of time, acting as if nothing ever happened. We normally call it Hoovering phase.

This is part of the Narcissistic abuse cycle. It starts from Idealization and passes through the Devaluation phase. Sometimes it ends in Discard Phase.

However, if the narcissistic discard is permanent, it means that the narcissist has truly moved on and has no intention of returning.

Either way, it’s important to be prepared for the possibility of being discarded by a narcissist. By understanding the narcissistic personality type, you can better protect yourself from their hurtful behavior.

Last words

The narcissist discard phase can be an especially difficult time for those who have been in a relationship with a narcissist. If you are experiencing this phase, know that you are not alone. There are many people who have gone through or are currently going through the same thing. You can find support and understanding in the comments section below. 

Additionally, if you need more help or want to talk to someone about your experience, please feel free to reach out to the narcissism support forum on our website. I hope that by sharing our knowledge and experiences I can provide some relief and support during this difficult time.

More readings

  1. 5 Ways to Respond After Being Discarded By a Narcissist
  2. Why Narcissists Discard Their Victims: Exploring the Motives
  3. 8 Reasons a Narcissist Will Come Back After Discarding You

Subscribe Narcissist hunter

We don’t spam! Read more in our [link]privacy policy[/link]

Check your inbox or spam folder to confirm your subscription.

Get Free Narcissistic Abuse Healing EBook Now

This book will guide you step by step in the journey of your healing from Narcissistic Abuse.

We don’t spam! Read our privacy policy and join Narcissistic abuse forum now.

Check your inbox or spam folder to confirm your subscription. And get the link to download this book.

TAGGED: abuse phases, Narcissistic abuse
Share this Article
Facebook Twitter Email Copy Link Print
By Fahim Chughtai
Follow:
A psychologist, and narcissist hunter. Writing for the people who need help to fight narcissists in their life.
Previous Article What is Devaluation phase of narcissistic abuse? The Devaluation Phase of Narcissistic Abuse: What Narcissists do During this Phase
Next Article How to spot a Narcissist on social media How to Spot a Narcissist on Social Media? (Digital Narcissism)
Leave a comment Leave a comment

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

You must be logged in to post a comment.

Join Us!

Popular Articles

Can Narcissistic Abuse Cause Brain Damage
Can Narcissistic Abuse Cause Brain Damage
March 22, 2023
What is Narcissistic love and how to deal with it
Narcissistic Love: Signs and How To Deal With It
March 21, 2023
What is Love Bombing? Causes, Signs and Response
What is Love Bombing? Causes, Signs and Response
February 2, 2023
What Parenting style Cause Narcissism in Children
How Different Parenting Styles Influence the Risk of Narcissism in Children
March 1, 2023

Subscribe Newsletter

Subscribe to our newsletter to get our newest articles instantly!

Subscribe Narcissist hunter Newsletter

Get blog posts and weekly newsletter into your mailbox.

We don’t spam! Read our [link]privacy policy[/link] for more info.

Check your inbox or spam folder to confirm your subscription.

Latest Research on Narcissism

10 Famous People With Narcissistic Personality Disorder
10 Famous People With Narcissistic Personality Disorder
March 18, 2023
Heritability of Narcissism Exploring the Heritability of Narcissism: What Science Tells Us
Is Narcissism in Your Genes? Exploring the Science Behind Personality Traits
February 28, 2023
Vulnerable & grandiose narcissists differ in stress response.
How Vulnerable and Grandiose Narcissists React Differently to Psychosocial Stress Research shows
February 25, 2023
2 Key Factors Linking Narcissism and Self-Esteem Discovered
2 Key Factors Linking Narcissism and Self-Esteem Discovered
February 12, 2023
The Study That Proves Narcissism Hurts Friendship Longevity
Study Reveals Narcissism as a Threat to Long-Lasting Friendships
February 12, 2023
Recent Topics on Fourm
  • Question what is a narcissistic relationship

    By Sophia012 2 weeks ago

  • Question What does it mean to be a Narcissist?

    By Sophia012 2 weeks ago

  • Breaking What Happens when You Ignore a Narcissist?

    By Sophia012 2 weeks ago

  • Question What is a Narcissistic Husband?

    By Sophia012 2 weeks ago

  • Question What to say to disarm a Narcissist?

    By Sophia012 2 weeks ago

Related Articles

Can Narcissistic Abuse Cause Brain Damage
Narcissistic abuse

Can Narcissistic Abuse Cause Brain Damage

Fahim Chughtai Fahim Chughtai March 22, 2023
5 Ways to Respond After Being Discarded By a Narcissist
Narcissistic abuse

5 Ways to Respond After Being Discarded By a Narcissist

Fahim Chughtai Fahim Chughtai March 4, 2023
8 Reasons a Narcissist Will Come Back After Discarding You
Narcissistic abuse

8 Reasons a Narcissist Will Come Back After Discarding You

Fahim Chughtai Fahim Chughtai March 9, 2023
Why Do Narcissists Discard You?
Narcissistic abuse

Why Narcissists Discard Their Victims: Exploring the Motives

Fahim Chughtai Fahim Chughtai March 1, 2023
9 Signs Of Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships
Narcissistic abuse

9 Signs Of Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships

Fahim Chughtai Fahim Chughtai March 4, 2023
What is narcissistic abuse? Signs ,effects and examples
Narcissistic abuse

The Ultimate Guide to Narcissistic Abuse: Signs, Examples, and Effects

Fahim Chughtai Fahim Chughtai March 5, 2023
9 Ways to Create Emotional Distance from a Narcissist
Narcissistic abuse

9 Ways to Create Emotional Distance from a Narcissist

Fahim Chughtai Fahim Chughtai February 10, 2023
Idealization phase of narcissistic abuse
Narcissistic abuseUncategorized

The Idealization Phase of Narcissistic Abuse: What Happens and How to Deal With It

Fahim Chughtai Fahim Chughtai February 9, 2023
What is Gaslighting? Signs, Examples & Response
Manipulation Tactics

What is Gaslighting? Signs, Examples & Response

Fahim Chughtai Fahim Chughtai March 4, 2023
What is Devaluation phase of narcissistic abuse?
Narcissistic abuse

The Devaluation Phase of Narcissistic Abuse: What Narcissists do During this Phase

Fahim Chughtai Fahim Chughtai March 6, 2023
Narcissist Hunter

Topics

  • Narcissism
  • Types of Narcissists
  • Relationship with a narcissist
  • Narcissist parents
  • Narcissist traps
  • Narcissism Myths
  • Trauma Bonding
  • Healing hub

Quick Links

  • About
  • Contact us
  • Disclaimer
  • Privacy policy
  • Editorial Policy
  • Narcissist hunter Newsletter

© 2023. Narcissisthunters.com. All Rights Reserved.

Removed from reading list

Undo
adbanner
AdBlock Detected
Our site is an advertising supported site. Please whitelist to support our site.
Okay, I'll Whitelist